When my mind starts stirring the pot–dwelling on someone else’s faults, anticipating conflict or difficulties, etc.–if I stop and remember what happened right before those thoughts showed up, I can usually see why they’re drawing me in.

Sometimes it’s my circumstances. Maybe a boss is stirring up old feelings or traumas, or my finances are uncertain and I feel the need to project into the future. Other times, though? It’s just boredom. Maybe there’s not a lot going on in my job today, so when I’m at work, I’m bored, and my mind starts seeking some new drama.

Today, if my excitement-seeking mind is tugging me along toward a distraction, I’ll recognize what’s happening. I’ll ask my Higher Power for help, and then I’ll think about how well I’m taking care of myself. Have I met my basic needs for food, sleep, connection, and fun? If I’m short on any of those things, I’ll start by doing the next right thing to address that need.