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My expectations of myself can get a little oversized. When I got to recovery, I found I needed to get to know myself. I didn’t have the clearest picture of who I was or what I could realistically do. This is still true to a degree. I set out to change a behavior and can’t…
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A workplace is rarely a collection of completely sane people. My fellow employees and I don’t just bring photos of our family and pets to work with us–we also bring our pain, problems, and defects of character. So it’s only a matter of time before someone does something to make me furious. Sometimes those feelings…
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During the course of my workday, I might have a lot of decisions to make–not major ones, but still deeply interpersonal in some way. Should I recommend her for the job? Should I say something to a coworker about … ? Should I take on (or take over) this project? So many situations can be…
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In recovery, many of us have to learn the difference between caretaking and caregiving. Caretaking gets us into enough trouble that we learn to watch for the warning signs. Many recovering people identify caretaking this way: if we’re doing things for someone that he can do for himself, that’s a sign we’re overstepping. Today, if I…
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Self-righteousness is part of my spiritual malady. I often become indignant when criticized, and when I catch myself judging co-workers, I see that I genuinely believe I perform better than the people around me. Yikes. This desire to be perceived as better than others often becomes a powerful distraction, one that can hinder my team’s…
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Sometimes, to live “life on life’s terms,” we deal with what happens to us on the job every day even if we’re not that happy about it. We suit up and show up, practice new behaviors, tend to our side of the street. We try to make difficult situations work, without running from conflict or…
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I didn’t hear much about unity in my life before recovery. Isolation I knew well. When I had to deal with a difficult person, oftentimes I didn’t. I barricaded myself in with people I knew liked me. But our Traditions guide us to consider unity when we’re part of a group. If I’m avoiding a…
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If my home life isn’t working the way I would like it to (and if I’ve landed in recovery, there’s a decent chance it isn’t), I might be distracted at work, thinking over what’s happening, and possibly–just possibly–making it worse in my head. Is that really going to make anything better? Today, I will remember…
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Work is a great place to react emotionally. On any given day, I might encounter someone who either treats me badly or reminds me of someone who once treated me badly. There’s also money involved with work, and that often touches my sense of Source, my feeling that I have what I need and deserve…
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It’s easy to run on habit at work, especially if I’ve been in the same job a while. Muscle memory kicks in, and I respond to the same problems with the same solutions–after all, I’ve been here before. But one of the gifts of recovery is the possibility of growth and change. As I recover,…
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Recovering at Work 