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So much of my attention at work goes to what’s going wrong, what’s frustrating, what’s triggering my defenses and defects. I particularly notice when I’m not being rewarded the way I’d like to be. But sometimes things go well. Sometimes I do receive new opportunities or acknowledgment. Today, if that happens, I will pay attention…
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Every job comes with some decision-making. This can be a very thorny process for me. Sometimes I doubt myself, or I anticipate criticism, or I get obsessive about gathering information. Fortunately, service work in recovery gives me an opportunity to practice making decisions without fear of judgment. I get the chance to remind myself that…
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So much of my attention at work goes to what’s going wrong, what’s frustrating, what’s triggering my defenses and defects. I particularly notice when I’m not being rewarded the way I’d like to be. But sometimes things go well. Sometimes I do receive new opportunities or acknowledgment. Today, if that happens, I will pay attention…
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“There are no annoying people,” someone said in a meeting. “If I feel annoyed, I’m experiencing a symptom of my judgment of others.” How can this possibly be true at work, where annoying people seem to congregate? The guy who narrates his work out loud—is he not objectively annoying? Or what about that hyper-competitive co-worker…
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For some of us, the addictive life is one of excessive competence and control. Our “self-will run riot” looks more like perfectionism run riot. It’s how we manage our fear. In recovery, as I connect with a spiritual Power, I may hear the faintest whisper in my soul that not everything is my responsibility. It’s…
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“There is no room in a shame-filled mind for the fact that we did our best at the time, no room to accept that as human beings we are bound to make mistakes.” Courage to Change, p. 57 Before I got into recovery, I often could not admit my mistakes to others. For one thing,…
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Groups that practice the Twelve Traditions strive to remain “fully self-supporting.” But if a group depends excessively on one member, is it really supporting itself fully? If one person contributes an outsized amount of time, money, or effort, what would happen if that person suddenly got sick? Would the group be able to keep going?…
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As much as I like to think otherwise, ultimately, whether I have a job or not is not even up to me. I can’t control the economic tides; I can’t control what jobs are available, or even how I’m perceived at the job I have. I can’t control a lot of things. But I can…
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To those of us in family recovery, the suggestion of a moral inventory stirs up complicated feelings. Some of us rush to deep guilt and almost can’t wait to admit all our transgressions, thinking if we just take enough responsibility, everything will be okay. Others might think the need for a moral inventory is obvious…
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Work has always taken up a lot of space in my brain. Maybe it’s like that for everyone. Work problems always felt like my biggest problems, and work took up more time in my day than just the hours I was working, because I was always thinking about my job. When I got into Twelve…
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Recovering at Work 